I recently sat down with my best friend "Renee" at dinner and I got her chatting about her sister who just gave birth. Asked all the juicy questions without making it obvious that my interest is purely selfish. I wanted to know! Did it hurt? How long was her labor? Did she have morning sickness? When did she tell everyone?
That's when Renee said, "I don't know what the big deal is, why do preggo ladies have to wait the requisite 13 weeks to tell?!" I just briefly remarked that its just to make sure that the pregnancy "stuck".
"Well then, just tell everyone it didn't stick, who cares!". Boy she had no idea.
I used to think the same thing, but after spending countless hours on www.babycenter.com and other forums, I realize sometimes, a lot of pregnancies didn't stick and it is a truly traumatic and sometimes even embarrassing situation for many women. The ecstatic mood you are in makes you want to shout it to the world! Then you hear the pain of someone who had to tell that same world that it ended in miscarriage is too much for most to bear. Not to mention, in this age of informational onslaught, you feel like so many things can go wrong...so I'm definitely gonna wait until after my next appointment. So until then...
I remain tight lipped.
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You should check out mothering.com for good forums.
Yeah, we didn't tell anyone until later when it "stuck."
BTW...I just happened on your blog through the random "next" blog button. Cool stuff.
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